A Christmas Gift

So what was my daughter's favorite present this Christmas? Her own.

Quick back story - As mentioned in a previous post, we recently tried the saving-for-a-goal approach to dealing with allowance. My daughter taped a picture of something she wanted to buy - a neat, kid-sized pottery wheel that came with wood, clay and paint. Over the course of a few months, she saved enough to purchase the wheel. Having the picture taped directly to her save bank helped serve as a reminder at allowance time. Sure enough, most of her money went to saving. When she saved enough for the item, she gave me her money and I purchased it online for her. I would have preferred to purchase this item at a store so she could physically pay for the item, but then this wouldn't have happened...

Back to Christmas - She had already opened most of her gifts as I picked up the brown box that had arrived with her name on it (one of several). It had been a busy holiday season and I had forgotten about the order we had placed for her. I thought this was another gift from one of her long distance relatives. We opened the box together and when I realized what was inside, I almost jumped with excitement. My daughter, though, went bananas. She was so excited and proud that she had received the toy for which she had so diligently saved. It was a an exciting moment for both my wife and me. Of all the presents she had received, none had elicited such a powerful reaction. We had stumbled into an incredible teaching moment for our child. She had learned the power and pride of saving for something on your own. She had received an incredible Christmas gift...from herself.

I wish you all a Happy New Year!

Holiday Cries for Help - Got Sanity?

Help! That seems to be the call this season. I am seeing so many articles about kids, money and the holidays that I honestly can't keep up. There is one thing that I've been talking about that I think is probably the most important consideration parents should have this holiday season - be aware of your own actions. Stacy Tisdale's new book, "The True Cost of Happiness," addresses this same issue - she says that if kids grow up in a credit card debt home, that's the kind of home they'll have. She even talked on the Today Show about this. True, true, true. I completely concur with Stacy's assessment. We all know kids do what we do, not what we say. So, this holiday season, be aware of the following:

- Make it a point to create and talk about a budget - even if you have very young kids, talk about it. They may not yet get, but you're setting the foundation...and you'll help yourselves curb "crazy spending in the process."

- Be very aware of the use of the words "need" and "want." Correct yourself and your children when you use these words incorrectly and/or interchangeability. Seriously, make it a point to pay strict attention to your words and actions regarding money for a day or two and you may be surprised at what you might discover about yourself - and your kids.

-Emphasize traditions. Don't have any traditions, create some. Every kids wants gifts during the holidays and I certainly don't want to advocate being a scrooge here, but emphasize your traditions - whatever they may be - because that's what kids will value in the long run. Granted, a Christmas without presents would not be fun at all, but neither would a Christmas without a decorated tree.

Make time for family and enjoy yourselves.

-John